• Hannah Telluselle

Setting self-boundaries

Believe it or not, even a skinny person like me has to be conscious of what I eat and how I exercise. It is how we eat and why, just like it is actually getting the exercise, that is the most important thing.

Through Lifecoaching, setting boundaries have been one of the cornerstones to our personal growth process. This usually is about being able to say no to who and what we don't want, whether it is to break out of a harmful past or not settle for less. It is also a matter of self-care to ensure our needs are met and we stay away from low energy people for example. But it is also being able to say no to ourselves when needed.

Look at your negative emotions for a second. The seven sins. When do you feel envy, pride or glutonous? What do you do then? Probably feed the gluttony, pride and envy. How will that help you reach your goals?

Look instead to the hurt you feel behind the bad behavior. Why and what is it that you want to compensate, hide or punish yourself with? Or is it simply a matter of daring to trust yourself instead?

It has been for me. And it is with this my Christian faith is helping me rely on the discipline God provides me with, such as how to become better at spending money and getting the rest I need. It can be buying when I doubt or refrain myself from. It can be to stop myself from over-achieving and rather allow myself to not be done and continue the next day while still keep a deadline. In my case it's also to be more flexible to counter others' resistance towards my positive development and improvements without beating myself up over delays others create, and instead protect what is good and mine.

The first step towards self-love is self-compassion. What have you had to go through? Find a way to embrace yourself and you will find a way forward. To remain standing in love whether only in spirit for the time being, or in person. I am.

The new sweet potato fries that I had at McDonald's were yummy today. 


​©2010-2099: Hannah Telluselle. Photos by Desirée Seitz. All rights reserved.​ Hosted by Wix.