When we grow up, our parents are our authority and it is them we either model, or rebel against. We will always be an extension of them to a certain degree, but we can choose how much and the areas. Do we work in the same profession? If we have inherited a talent, perhaps yes, but we don't have to. Do we treat our children the same? No, most likely, we tend to want to give our children what we didn't get. But do they want that or need?! No. You need it. They need to be seen as their own person.
The purpose of my books is to show how I reclaim myself as a person without my parents, or simply save what was good and develop an awareness of what I felt I was lacking as a child. But, instead of expecting a partner to give that to me, most common subconsciously, I decided to start giving this to myself, to have my needs as my focal point for setting boundaries and choosing. In this also lies hope, I hope! That whatever we went through in our childhood may have formed us, but it doesn't have to define us. It's about getting in touch with your inner spirit, that I refer to as inner child, and becoming your own best parent. Try it!