What if I told you that you are capable of creating love yourself? Do you think that someone has to love you first, like a boyfriend or your parents? While this is how many of us get to know love, we also learn what it isn't. We think we are loved, or people tell us that they love us, but we might not feel it. In order to change behavioral patterns that aren't serving us, aren't nurturing us with the kind of care and consideration we wish, we can decide how we would like it to be, and start by creating this ourselves.
Make a checklist of things that are important to you. For example, you might be longing for more touch, and most of all, touch in a specific kind of way. Within this, lies a potential important deal breaker. If you aren't receiving touch the way you prefer it, no matter how outgoing or intellectually stimulating your partner might be, it isn't the right one for you. Dare to touch and kiss a lot. Date a couple of frogs to try.
On an emotional level, create your own best foundation first. Have your own little home, find your peace and what brings you joy, to set a better foundation than by the one you are coming with, from your past. Decide to be loving yourself towards others. Feel love. If you don't know how to find this feeling, tune into happy memories, look at pretty sceneries and animals, and choose your own best approach, your own perspective. Provide love in your own daily encounters in society. We can't make others love us, but we can always decide to be loving and love others. This is where you can find your power. And most of all, always be open to learn something new.
Dare to care.