Whether it's being called to come in and eat, or to go and use the restroom before leaving the house, we have all been told to by our parents. In some ways, this can have created stress. Simply put, we don't always need to go pee, just because we're scheduled to leave for school. To obey our parents, we go anyway and we eat when we're told to. If we're unlucky, we become hungry as well in need of the restroom at another hour. Then when we ask to go, we might become scolded. Didn't you just go to the restroom?
Learning to really listen to our bodies and tend to all of our needs, is somewhat also an unlearning of habits. We need to ask ourselves, why we are eating, going to the bathroom, and sleeping at the hours we are. I, for example, think it's absolutely crucial for me to wind down and perhaps process things until I feel done, before I go to sleep. Or else, I won't fall asleep anyway. The winding down might, depending on what I have had to deal with during the day and especially the evening, or unresolved matters, take me past my desired bedtime, but if I fall asleep at once, which I then do, I gain my hours anyway. Nonetheless, I can feel guilty about being up late.
Much of our lives in society, revolves around being somewhere at a certain time. When life is in flow, this becomes secondary. But, if we feel in doubt, or become hindered by others, this becomes our whole focus and the actual purpose of our appointment can become questioned. This is why I, have set a boundary to never have any meetings before 11 am, since many years. This is even crucial for my physical health.
Learning to navigate these feelings and needs, is part of healing our inner child and becoming our own best parent.
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